5 Ways to Reset The Spark
So many things about sexy time can start to feel routine....
Same moves,
Same positions,
Same time,
Same prep.
Here's a shake up to your self care before the sexy time starts to make sure you are in the mood, and ready to bring a little extra to the table....
5 self-care switches to boost the spark:
1. Shower Reset Ritual
Hop in together (or solo first) for a steamy rinse. Use a gentle exfoliating mitt and a silky body wash so skin feels extra touchable. Warm water relaxes muscles and puts your nervous system in “yes, please” mode.
2. Smooth & Soft
If shaving’s your thing, trade the rushed razor for a cushiony shave cream and slow strokes. Follow with a lightweight, unscented moisturizer. Smooth skin means more glide, more sensation, more “mmm.”
3. Set the Scene, Not Just the Mood
Dim lights, soft playlist, fresh sheets, and one cozy throw. Add a massage candle or warm oil so foreplay starts with caring touch. When the room feels inviting, your body does too.
4. Tiny Tease, Big Payoff
Before anything spicy, do 5 minutes of “almost”: kiss, trace, breathe on skin, and back off. That playful edge-building primes arousal and makes everything that follows feel richer.
5. Talk While You Towel
Post-shower, share one simple preference: “Slow circles,” “More pressure,” or “Kiss here.” Clear cues put both of you on the same page.
A little switch up, plus the self cares creates nervous-system calm... boosting dopamine and reducing tension so your body reads touch as pleasure, not pressure. It’s curiosity, care, and play…
Optional add-ins:
A lush bath soak, luxurious shave cream, massage candle, water-based lube, or a petite external massager to layer on sensation... and you know we've got it all